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We're back this month with some more tips on healthy living; this time our focus is on anger management. It’s never a good idea to act on your anger, so we’ll offer some ideas on how to build patience and communicate during moments that upset you.
Reasons Not to Act in Anger
● You could hurt someone’s feelings beyond this moment
● You might say something you don’t really mean
● You could do something that could hurt yourself or others
● You might act irrationally in the moment and not make good choices
● It isn’t healthy for anyone to act out in anger!
How to Build Patience and Communicate
● Slow Down. Try to focus on what is being said by the other person
● Think before you speak. This helps you take your time to
make sure you are being honest and patient
● Take deep breaths. This can help you relax if you start getting upset or anxious
● Create a timetable. Carve out time for a conversation, this will help avoid other
distractions and help you focus
● Count to 10 to help cool down. You can’t listen well if you are upset
● Write down what you want to say. This helps you remember all the points you
want to talk about with out. interrupting someone
● Be Considerate. It might take time to explain feelings, don’t rush them
● Take a break. This can help both parties cool off if things get heated
How To Communicate When You’re Angry
● Sit with your anger without speaking
● Take a break, get some space
● Try to understand why you are angry
● Ask yourself: Why is this bothering you so much?
● Get it out in a healthy way
● Think about what you are going to say before you say it
● Use ‘I Feel’ language to express yourself
● Resist the urge to unload all your grievances on someone else
● Focus on creating a solution
● Learn from your anger
● Try to change your behavior for the future to prevent the same argument from happening, learn to prevent it by being open and honest
